I wonder, "In our zeal for women to become educated, career women, have we foregone the great virtue of humility?"
This question appears in various circumstances that draws me into attempting to see this more in a spiritual way (Holy Glasses, if you will)...wondering about what God really asks of us.
Most often this question arises because I am a stay-at-home mom...or in the eyes of the world, "You don't work?" ... Uhm, YES, I do work. I work a lot.
One of the other ponderings I have regarding lost humility in women in America is the need to be equal or even more than equal ('top dog') to others (not just over men, but over everyone). In our quest to become "IMPORTANT" or "OF VALUE" did we lose the importance of HUMILITY?
- Do we dislike having people in authority over us?
- Does it bother us to reverence another?
- Are we willing to humble ourselves to serve others...WITHOUT BEING ASKED?
- Must the initials after our name be of higher 'value' than others around us?
- Do we dislike using titles of others that acknowledge their importance (i.e., Mr., Mrs. Dr., Father, Deacon, etc.)
Our deanery recently held the yearly, "Good Friday Stations Walk" where young and old alike gather to walk and pray the Passion. This year the walkers experienced a heightened 'offering of suffering' as it decided to pour buckets of rain!
As I looked through the pictures, a couple caught my attention, and I found myself in tears!
Do you see what I see?
Here's a close-up...do you see what I see?
Do you see the women...
lovingly holding umbrellas over the two priests?
I was told, not only did they hold the umbrellas over the priests, but to do so sometimes meant walking in the gutters of flowing water from the downpour. TRUE HUMILITY. TRUE REVERENCE.
I know one of these women, and she is educated and a career woman. However, she's not too proud to humble herself by reverencing her SPIRITUAL FATHER. This woman does not struggle with the need to feel 'equal' to him -- obvious by her truly humble actions. By this action, I would also assume she would not have a problem with using his proper title of "Father" before his name.
Yet, many American women I know would struggle with both aspects of this lady's loving humility -- if they were asked to do such a thing as 'lower' themselves.
Not only that, knowing these two priests, I would be safe to guess that they would NEVER EXPECT such treatment. However, they do deserve it. They gave their lives to our Holy Mother Church to be our spiritual fathers.
Have we lost the beautiful virtue of humility? I pray not.
Saint Zita, pray for us!
Just yesterday I had the conversation with my kids about our family rule of calling ADULTS by Mr. or Mrs. so and so. And how many of the adults don't like it (for various reasons). But that begged the question, "How did this happen?" ... "Why do kids insist on addressing adults by their first name, as if they are EQUAL?" When I grew up (hundreds of years ago according to my 13 y.o.) we would NEVER think of addressing a teacher or leader with anything but Mr. or Mrs. Yet, today in preschools you have Little Johnny addressing his teacher by Miss Liz, rather than Mrs. Kearns. WHY? What are we teaching Little Johnny when he is allowed to address adults by their first name? Will he then as a teenager resist ever using a title that acknowledges the fact that he is NOT someone's equal?
Is it a lack of humility?
Saint Joseph, pray for us!
Here's the reflection that brought all of this to mind this morning:
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True faith shows itself in humility. Dicebat enim intra se – that poor woman said to herself: Si tetigero tantum vestimentum eius, salva ero – if I can but touch the hem of his garment, I shall be healed.
What humility she showed. It was both a result and a sign of her faith.
Actions speak much louder than words...
Mary, Mother of God, intercede for us.